She Wants A Gentleman is the latest SWAG acronym. Apparently in the 60’s, SWAG stood for “Secretly We Are Gay,” according to the unreliable UrbanDictionary.com. When I think of the word, I think of a guy strutting his stuff, but I like this new definition more.
My question is, do girls really want gentlemen?
A lot of girls put up with guys who talk trashy, are disrespectful, say mean things, are unthoughtful, don’t offer to pay for anything, couldn’t open a door for anyone if they tried, and pressure them sexually.
If girls want guys to be gentlemen, why aren’t more girls acting like ladies? Seems the only way to land a gentleman is to be a lady. But I hated the word “lady” growing up. It’s always accompanied with a negative tone and brings to mind a set of rules I didn’t want to follow.
“Don’t use that tone of voice with me, young lady.”
“Sit like a lady.”
“Act like a lady.”
When I was in middle school, I didn’t want to be a lady. I wanted to wear t-shirts and jeans, slouch, eat pizza, and beat boys at basketball. When I was in high school, I didn’t want to be a lady. I wanted to be cute and popular. The image of a lady was a woman in a dress, sitting primly with a tea cup in her hand, pinky finger properly raised. BLECH.
|I’m forgiving the misuse of the period and quotation marks only because of Ryan Gosling.|
As an adult, being a lady sets you apart…in a good way. Being gentle, proper, and acting “like a lady” requires people to treat you like such. Being a lady has a lot to do with demeanor, as well.
And if you’re going to act like a lady, you should expect your guy to act like a gentleman. But even more than that, he needs to have some substance behind his SWAG.