Future girlfriend of my son,
We are not a typical family. Dating is not a casual activity. Our boys are brought up to understand that dating is intentional and purposeful. If you’re having fun on group dates, more power to you! Use the time wisely to get to know my boy. He’s using that time to get to know you.
Here are some things you need to know if you want to date my son:
1. I am watching you.
Closely. I’ve already successfully navigated this dating game, my dear, and you are a newbie. It doesn’t matter how much of a “good girl” you are. I wore that label too, so I know exactly how easy it is to get away with things. I haven’t spent the last “x” number of years raising my son to be a godly awesome gentleman to leave him in the clutches of every pretty thing that crosses his fancy. I am ALWAYS observing.
2. I’m the most important woman in his life.
For now. I know one day he’ll get married and his wife will become number one. I’m prepared for that to happen, but for now, I hold that special place. Respect that and don’t try to create a wedge between us. It will only cause problems for everyone involved. That said…
3. I want to like you.
I’m praying for my son’s future wife, and that includes the girlfriends, as well. If I’ve done my job well as a parent, you’re probably a pretty great girl. The fact that my son likes you means a lot. If you’re lucky enough to “meet the parents,” it means even more.
4. Be ready to spend time with the family.
I’m looking forward to having you over for dinner and hanging out with us on family outings. In fact, you should be prepared to be invited to a lot of activities. This is how I will have a closer eye on your relationship, after all. Also, I’m looking forward to evening up the numbers a little. Four guys in this house with only me means there is a lot of testosterone. It’ll be fun to have another girl around.
5. I trust my son.
I try to be a great role model for my son, and hope that he sees how much his father and I love and respect each other. I trust that he wants nothing less for his future life. I hope he’s selective, and because my son and I talk, I know he’s looking for more than a cute face when he’s dating. I trust him, and I want to trust you, but I will never trust the two of you alone together. 🙂 See Chapter 11 in The Cinderella Rule for more on that.
That’s it for now, but there is a whole lot more to be said. I’ll cover more things that you need to know in “If you Want to Date My Son, Pt 2.”
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