Dating Rule #2: Don’t put yourself in compromising situations.
Basically, that means, don’t be alone with your boyfriend. No good can come of it. Just ask the teenage mother.
Girls. My girls. I love you and want what’s best for you. I know that deep down in your precious hearts you want purity. You want to be upright. You want to be attractive and sexy, but you also want the innocence. What a heavy balance it is.
If you want to save yourself for your wedding night, then guarding your heart should be of utmost importance. (And I promise, your future husband is hoping you are guarding your heart, as well.)
Do you know the number one reason teenagers have sex?
They are in looooooovvveeee?
They believe they are “ready”?
What does that even mean?!?!! Ready?? gag.
No . . . the number one reason teenagers have sex is because they are bored.
Was your first reaction to think “I wasn’t bored when I… when we…” Aha!! You obviously had nothing better to do, whether you “went all the way” or just “messed around.” Apparently you weren’t being supervised.
I do not understand parents of teenagers who leave them alone with their boyfriend in their bedroom. Or at their house while they are not home. I don’t care how trustworthy you are . . . it’s the “good kids” that never get caught and no one will ever suspect . . . especially if you aren’t actually having sex, you aren’t going to get pregnant so how will anyone ever know?
I know from conversations some of us have shared that it does affect your heart. Deeper than that, it affects your soul, and I know it’s not something you want to continue. But it’s harder to move a boundary backward than to cross it in the first place.
When Justin and I were dating, we usually would go out to dinner and then end up back at the college where I had parked my car. As soon as we pulled into the parking lot, he would turn off the engine and get out of the car. No talking. No holding hands and gazing into each other’s eyes.
I thought maybe he didn’t have fun on our date.
I thought something was wrong with me.
Turns out, it was because he liked me so much that he got out of the car. Now, let me just say, this is an instance where the male mind is SO differently wired than our female ones. We were at a Christian college! We were in the middle of a busy and well-lit parking lot. There were people everywhere. But he said that it wasn’t a habit he wanted to get into because he knew where it could lead.
I liked that. Well, underneath my disappointment at having our dates end so abruptly, I liked it.
The guy who loves you guards your heart, as well as his. He looks out for the situations where you could be tempted to go further than you want to.
The guy who loves you doesn’t let you put your head in his lap while you’re watching TV together. He doesn’t suggest that you spend a lot of time together alone in his car, his house, or his bedroom. He doesn’t pressure you.
Once you’re married, you will have A LOT of alone time with that man of your dreams, although your dates will still end with you both jumping out of the car quickly . . . why stay in the car when you have the whole house to yourselves?
I promise it’s worth waiting for.