One of my bestest girlfriends called me up the other day with a question for her teenaged nephew.
“If he likes a girl, shouldn’t the guy be the one to friend her on Facebook, or should he wait for her to do it?”
My answer: “Stop being lazy boys!!! Yes – the guy should friend her if he likes her. Stop waiting around for the girl to get up the courage to do it! Friend her, already! If she likes you back, you’re gonna make her day!”
The problem is that we’re conditioning our girls to be the initiator and pursuer in the relationships, which doesn’t make any sense. You already know this – boys and girls are wired differently, and hormonal boys will date almost anyone who asks them. Now, now, I said “almost.”
I’m all for girls being independent and chasing their dreams, but when it comes to relationships, take your foot off the gas and cruise in neutral for a while. Let the guy build up the courage to chase you. Let him sweat it out. Instead of focusing on making sure your crush knows you exist, back off. If he likes you, he’s fully aware of your presence every time you’re within 500 yards of each other.
Guys are like sharks that way–where a shark can smell a drop of blood miles away, a little feminine hormone can be detected in a crowd of hundreds. And most girls know that if a guy likes you, he’ll let you know…eventually. There’s always the one guy you don’t want to date that always seems to be by your side. Good for him for working up the courage, so be nice, but make sure not to lead him on.
So here’s my question:
How many boys have you texted in the last 24 hours? Did they text you first?
Do you stalk your crush on Facebook? Do you follow him on Twitter, Instagram, and Tumblr? Do you send him cutesy Snapchat images?
Always remember, a man will do what a man wants to do — so stop making it so easy for them. Make him work hard to get you. With all the social media at our fingertips, it doesn’t take a genius to get ahold of someone, just some old-fashioned courage. 🙂
Question: Do you think guys calling girls first is too old-fashioned, or do you think it’s a rule to live by? Can’t wait to hear your thoughts! Comment above!
Just for fun: Here’s my l’amour Pinterest board.
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